What if we, as women, stopped allowing our truest selves to be diluted by the insidious expectations, conditioning and convention that bombard us from infancy, eroding our self-esteem and undermining our authenticity?
Tam is on a journey to find the way back to that authenticity, reclaiming Woman Undiluted one step at a time.

Togetherness & Solitude: The Exquisite Balance

Many of the women I work with, in my workshops and one-to-one sessions, are unhappy regarding relationships. Perhaps their partnership lacks vitality, or they are single and despairing of ever being happily paired with a compassionate other. I can empathise with both these states which, amazingly, I can also now look back upon through the [...]

By | 2017-08-26T21:36:37+00:00 August 24th, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Positively Mental, Woman Undiluted|

The People We Were Born to Be

The AccepTTranscend Model for Transformation explores, in part, the power of the stories we tell ourselves, and others, about our lives. We tend to think we cannot change the past. But we can change the way it has affected us, and affects us still. We can rewrite our story with ourselves as hero. We can [...]

By | 2017-09-04T09:44:33+00:00 August 23rd, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Woman Undiluted|

The Empty Nest is a Fluid Thing

It is that time of year that young people prepare to leave for college and university. Exciting, for them and their parents, but sometimes devastating too for the erstwhile caregivers left behind. I used to wonder, when my friends lamented the emptying of their nests, why they made such a big deal of it. As [...]

By | 2017-08-27T16:50:21+00:00 August 17th, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Woman Undiluted|

Feathers, Sticks, Guano and Wisdom: The Debris of the Empty Nest

I’m trying to work out how to effectively launch a new Twitter account. At 57, IT-active but still cautiously emerging from a tunnel of innate technophobia, this is a challenge for me. I want to reach out to other Older Women like myself. Over 50, reluctant to accept what “over 50” is supposed to mean. [...]

By | 2017-08-27T19:03:07+00:00 August 16th, 2017|Woman Undiluted|

Disorders, Difficulties and words that start with Dys: Fenna’s Story (Full Version)

This post is a celebration, a culmination, a letting go and a re-commitment. It is a story I need to tell, and I hope it will resonate with others, and inspire them, There is a condensed version if you'd prefer. What a month it's been! Two weeks ago my daughter Fenna was notified that she [...]

By | 2018-02-28T22:34:14+00:00 July 12th, 2017|Dystinctive Learning, Positively Mental, Woman Undiluted|

Disorders, Difficulties and words that start with Dys (Condensed Version))

What a month it has been! Two weeks ago my daughter Fenna was notified that she has achieved a 2:1 degree in Psychology. The next day she learned that she has also been successful in her first ever “proper” job application. She aced her very first interview and will start her “dream job” in a [...]

By | 2018-02-28T22:39:05+00:00 July 11th, 2017|Dystinctive Learning, Positively Mental, Woman Undiluted|

FF is for Ffeminist – Breasts, Bras and the Older Woman

I’ve got big breasts. I have had since, at the age of 11, the startling bumps that had recently appeared on my little-girl chest suddenly inflated into something with a definite cleavage. Mortified with shame, I grew my hair longer so that if I bent forward it would form a curtain to hide the cursed [...]

By | 2017-08-27T18:33:18+00:00 June 21st, 2017|Woman Undiluted|

Rehoming Hope

Perhaps you’ve noticed we are living in challenging times. Times in which hope, while never needed more, can sometimes seem inadequate for the crises we are facing. I have been facilitating workshops that explore and identify hope for many years, and repeatedly witnessed its power to guide people through the darkest times. An acquaintance recently [...]

By | 2017-08-27T19:01:14+00:00 June 18th, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Positively Mental, Woman Undiluted|